What is Your Level of Tolerance?

Life sure is interesting. It seems even the most obvious of circumstances is easily misinterpreted resulting in all kinds of conflict that produce unimaginable outcomes. To be more specific, reaching an understanding of what we can tolerate in terms of people, places and things can be challenging. After 11 years of serious investigation, the answer became very clear. First, we are all very unique. Our thumbprints serve to confirm this. We have tons of data to prove it. Secondly, our uniqueness has a range of tolerance and often times we stretch too far and this creates conflict. Tolerance presents itself in many ways but for purposes of this commentary I want to address levels of refinement.

Some people are very meticulous (a little OCD). Others are very practical (neat, tidy, lots of organized piles) and lastly there are those that are more organic who need a messy environment in order to breathe freely and rise to their full potential. Parents often experience this dichotomy of preferences among their offspring. I have three daughters. Each fall into these classifications. My oldest daughter (22 year old) is very organic and can tolerate a messy environment. She doesn't mind that Starbucks cup sitting in her car from last week. My middle daughter (12 year old) is a minimalist, very meticulous and fussy with her environment. My youngest daughter (11 year old) is more organic and thrives in a messy environment just like my oldest. My two polar opposite daughters that are much closer in age, (the middle and the youngest) would most definitely take energy from each other if they shared a small space for a prolonged period of time, such as sharing a bedroon. When they were younger, I noticed that when putting the two of them in car seats in the back of my car, I had to put a bit of a barrier between them like a diaper bag. If I mistakenly put them too close together I would hear screams of "MOM she just touched me with sticky fingers...make her stop!" While the other was blissfully laughing.  Everyone would be exhausted in less than 3 miles down the road. This sort of intolerance occurs all of the time in the workplace, in marriages, on athletic teams and everywhere there is a human in the equation. Sometimes the intolerance is subtle and individuals can be together for several hours without losing a lot of stamina. Yet, others will begin to make excuses for leaving an event or distancing themselves in a room in an effort to simply stay pleasant and acceptable.

When we extend ourselves or exceed our threshold of tolerance, we begin to demonstrate weak behavior. Some signs of this are complaining, gossiping, exhibiting unnecessary fear, and in extreme cases slamming doors. This is when we know we stayed in the wrong place, with the wrong people, too long. The unfortunate thing is that intolerance runs in families that are conditioned by tradition to stick together no matter what. Consequently, family arguments and unrealistic judgement occurs usually causing alienation or a division of the family.  Those that can tolerate one another create their own camps while the practical ones feel pulled by both camps. We see this frequently take place in the workplace.

This aspect of understanding your range of tolerance can breed acceptance and eliminate unfair judgements. Being meticulous does not make you better than being messy. It’s simply a state of human existence that supports a person’s nature. If we do not align our lifestyle with our nature we will lose energy and essentially dread life. Achieving happiness is contingent upon this as well as a few other aspects of self-awareness.

So, the next time you decide to buy a family car, or a home or choose a place to vacation, make sure that your companion(s) can maintain vitality given your selections. Hopefully you are keeping company with those that are typically in alignment with your refinement. When this is not the case, COMPROMISE becomes the norm. Choose wisely who, what and where you need to thrive effortlessly.

*The YOU Institute is home for the “ULT” (ultimate life tool advanced human assessment technology) and is dedicated to helping others fully understand how far they can stretch, how they connect with others, and what they need to be happy.

33 thoughts on “What is Your Level of Tolerance?”

  1. Thank you so much for your comment! Yes I have received A TON of spam and its pretty annoying but I just “spam” it and it drops off. Not sure about a plug in Ill look into it and get back with you. I appreciate your thoughts on my work. It means so much to me. Where can I find your work? Blogs? I would love to read yours.

  2. I love your blog.. very nice colors & theme.
    Did you create this website yourself or did you hire someone to do it for you?

    Plz reply as I’m looking to create my own blog
    and would like to find out where u got this from. thanks a lot

  3. Fantastic goods from you, man. I’ve understand your stuff previous to and you’re just
    too wonderful. I actually like what you’ve acquired here, certainly like what you’re saying and the way in which
    you say it. You make it enjoyable and you still take care of to keep it sensible.
    I cant wait to read much more from you. This is actually a terrific web site.

  4. Hi there! I could have sworn I’ve been to this website before but after
    going through some of the articles I realized it’s new to me.
    Nonetheless, I’m definitely happy I discovered it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back regularly!

  5. Have yoou ever thought about adding a little bit more than just your articles?

    I mean, what you say iis valuable and everything.
    But think about if you added some great images oor video clips to give your posts more, “pop”!

    Your ontent is excellent but with pics and clips, this website could definitely bee one of the most beneficial in its field.

    Awesome blog!

  6. When someone writes an article he/she maintains the thought of
    a user in his/her brain that how a user can know it. Therefore that’s
    why this piece of writing is outstdanding. Thanks!

  7. I’m pretty pleased to discover this page. I wanted to thank you for your time just for
    this fantastic read!! I definitely enjoyed every part of
    it and I have you bookmarked to look at new things in your
    blog.

  8. Pleaѕe let me know if you’гe ⅼooking foг a writer foг yοur blog.
    Youu havе soe reallky ɡreat articles ɑnd I feel
    I w᧐uld be ɑ good asset. If уou ever want to tɑke ѕome of the load ⲟff, Ι’d love to wrіte sone material fߋr youur blg
    in exchange fоr a link back to mine. Pleaxe shoot mee
    ɑn email if іnterested. Thankѕ!

  9. I blog frequently and I genuinely thank you for your information. This great article has truly peaked my interest.
    I will book mark your site and keep checking for new
    details about once per week. I subscribed to your RSS feed
    as well.

  10. I take pleasure in, result in I found just what I used to
    be having a look for. You have ended my 4 day long hunt! God Bless you man. Have a nice day.
    Bye

  11. I don’t know if it’s just me or if perhaps everybody else encountering
    problems with your site. It appears like some of the written text in your
    posts are running off the screen. Can somebody else please
    comment and let me know if this is happening to
    them too? This may be a problem with my browser because I’ve had this happen before.
    Kudos

  12. What i do not realize is in reality how
    you’re no longer actually much more smartly-preferred than you
    may be right now. You’re so intelligent. You understand therefore considerably in relation to this topic,
    made me for my part believe it from so many numerous angles.

    Its like men and women aren’t interested unless it is something to do with
    Lady gaga! Your personal stuffs excellent. All the time care for it up!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *